The "Unguarded And Unbothered" Movement Is Taking Over Instagram
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The "Unguarded And Unbothered" Movement Is Taking Over Instagram

Encouraging women to love their REAL selves.

As I sit scrolling through the Instagram account I dedicated to fitness, I come across post after post after post of perfectly sculpted, perfectly beautiful, perfectly PERFECT women. Their bodies are lean and strong, with muscles I didn't even know a human could have. My mind floats to my stunning lack of abs. My delts don't pop like hers do. My legs are at least ten times chunkier than that girl's.

Staring at these kinds of pictures daily can wreck a girl's self-esteem. One girl decided to start a movement that ended up taking Instagram by storm: Unguarded And Unbothered.

Desiree Scoggin, a 22-year old certified personal trainer, created the movement to encourage women to see beauty in themselves in a world that often times pressures them to be perfect. She posted the following photo on Instagram, which would lead to a massive wave of women joining in to celebrate their bodies -- their real, beautiful bodies.

This took a lot of balls.. but this is me. ?? Not one drop of edit. No contortion. No sucking in. No glamour shot. 100% me. 100% vulnerable. #UnguardedAndUnbothered I use to hate how I have reddish skin around my eyes. I use to hate the way my belly button looked. I hated how one eye squinted more when I smiled. I use to hate that I got acne everywhere, including my back. I use to hate that my thighs were so big. I use to hate that I didn't have boobs. I use to hate that people called me "broad" and told me I'd be a good football player (lol F off). I hated my eyebrows and how they looked so much I shaved them with a literal razor ??. I USE TO HATE "ME"! Now, I love everything about myself so much I want you guys to see it and *hopefully* love me and accept me for who I am too! ???????? I'm not here to BS anyone, I'm not here to act like I know everything, and I'm not here to inspire purely through fitness. I'm HERE to inspire you through your life! I want to help so many people it makes me emotional just thinking about it, and typing this. I want to make a difference in this world. I WILL make a difference in this world. Take your makeup off, look at yourself in the mirror, forget about what the media tells you, and LOVE YOURSELF! Share your own beauty, I want to see it --> #UnguardedAndUnbothered. ?????? #desbfit #desbfittraining #therealme #bereal #nomakeup #noedit #thriving #pure #realitycheck #fitnessjourney #unbothered #teamhappiness #lit #iamenough

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The photo is unedited, unfiltered, uncontoured. It's 100 percent real, 100 percent Desiree. In the caption, she laundry-lists all the things that she used to hate about herself, all of which are now things that she loves so much. So much that she wants everyone to see them and accept her for HER. Completely unguarded, completely real and unbothered by the raw truth of who she is.

In the post, Des invited her followers to join in the movement, to let down the guard that covers up their insecurities and to be unbothered in showing their real selves to the world. The #UnguardedAndUnbothered tag currently has almost 1700 posts and grows daily.

Hundreds of women have joined what has become so much more than a self-love movement. It's a proclamation of confidence, of self, of acceptance and of raw beauty. In a society that puts so much pressure on women to be perfect, it's amazing to see so many strong, beautiful women not afraid to show their "flaws" and let others know they're not alone.

I ended up joining the movement a few weeks after Des posted the original photo. I had my hair thrown up in a messy bun. I was wearing my glasses and no makeup. My arms looked skinny, and I didn't have anything resembling a six-pack, but looking in the mirror, I loved who I was. All the bad things I used to pick apart, I realized were what made me... me.

I was terrified at first to post such a raw photo, but I received so much positive feedback and so many encouraging words, and Des herself even left a comment telling me that I looked so happy and confident. I realized being sincerely accepting of and happy about who you are is worth SO much more than an unattainable image of "perfection".

Des has continued to slayyyyy the Instagram game, and now has over 22K followers. She continues to embody her original #UnguardedAndUnbothered message in all of her posts, encouraging those who follow her to do the same.

Des's movement has obviously garnered a ton of success. It has allowed women to come to peace with themselves and their imperfections, and to show the world that they are proud of who they are. This has inspired me to start feeling more confident about myself in general. In my eyes, that's a success.

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FlockU Stunner of the Week Presents: Mari Julliete

Cue jaw drop.

Mari Juliette From Fort Lauderdale, Florida




Hello, Mari, and congratulations on being the FlockU Stunner of the Week. I have a few questions that I would like to ask you so that some of our readers can get to know the real Mari.

Age: 24

Education: Florida Atlantic University '16

Major: Communication & Political Science

Ethnicities: Caucasion, Brazilian, German and Dutch


Have you ever pooped before?

Well, I am a human.

So, have you?

Yes.


At what age did you start modeling?

When I was 16, I worked at a local surf shop and they asked me to do a paddle-board advertisement. From there, I started doing more stuff with them, and eventually worked my way around Fort Lauderdale. I got much more into it when I went off to college (and needed to provide for myself).

Who were some of your biggest role models?

Alessandra Ambrosio, Adriana Limi and Nina Agdal.


Can you tell me a little about the hats in your most recent Instagrams?

That is actually a crazy story. I was at a hotel in Miami and bought a hat from a boutique from Alessandra Ambrosio's line because I liked it (first hat I ever bought). I posted it on social media, and a few months later, her marketing team reached out to me saying they wanted me to do a photoshoot. It was crazy because she has always been my favorite model. It was a great experience, and since then I have continued working with them, and now I have over 15 hats!

Why do you only have 7,000 Instagram followers?

When I was starting up, Instagram wasn't popular at all. I didn't have an agent or anything. I would market myself through the connections I was making. I have always preferred face-to-face meetings rather than meeting people through the Internet. I got Instagram, and I like it as a way to post some of my pictures, but I am not overly obsessed with it

Why are you on private?

My modeling got brought it up in an interview so I just decided to play it safe.


Do people assume you are a dumb blonde?

Yes. People always tell me that they are so surprised to hear that I am smart and well-spoken. I try to take it as a compliment. I worked my ass off in school and graduated Magna Cum Laude, and it gets frustrating when people just assume that I am dumb because of the way I look.

What do you do now?

I work in sales for medical devices.

Who is the oldest person to ever DM you? Youngest? Has it ever worked?

60 and ten. Not for me, I have a boyfriend, but I know a bunch of modeling girls that have met their significant others through the DMs.

Will there be a run scored in the first inning of the Padres/Brewers game?

Yes! (Unfortunately, she was incorrect.)

[I didn't want to include this question but] Do you like Chick-Fil-A?

No, I actually hate it.

So, no fast food?

Well, actually, funny story. I used to always hate hot dogs because I thought they were disgusting. Once, I was at a party in Canada, and my friend kept trying to convince me to eat one. I finally ate one and I loved it so much that I ended up eating seven in one sitting. Now I love hot dogs.

Favorite swimsuit you've worn?

Pink Pirate Flamingo (below).


Favorite SpongeBob episode?

FrankenDoodle!

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The True Queens Of Coachella

Truly iconic.

Rihanna

" I can't go home yet, cuz enough people ain't seen my outfit "

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Yaaaaaaaas kweeeeen. Yas. Rihanna does whatever the hell she wants when it comes to her fashion and her Instagram. And she prides herself on it. Coachella is the ultimate celebration of fashion and Instagram, so it only makes sense that she takes the crown and puts all other Coachella Instagrams to shame.

1. Girl With No Job (Claudia Oshry)

Get me the fuck out of Palm Springs.

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Girl With No Job is a true Coachella Queen for her #treachella themed Instagrams and Snapchats. She kept it real about the not-so-glamorous and annoying sides of Coachella: long lines, exhausting walks, 100 degree weather, hangriness, food breaks, and insane crowds.

2. Joanne the Scammer (Branden Miller)

Me and @saintrecords after scamming half of the men at Coachella. Truly iconic.

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Joanne the Scammer is the only person on earth who can wear a flower crown and choker to Coachella 2017 and still look like a damn queen. And do you think it's a coincidence that Joanne posed with the sister of THE Queen B right after Queen B pulled off the greatest scam of 2017 (pulling out of Coachella but still raking in the cash)? I don't think so. "Truly iconic" is right.

3. Vanessa Hudgens

Found my throne ??

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While most of her posts were sadly disappointing this year, there was one that redeemed her Coachella Queen status. I don't know WTF she is wearing in the picture. Like, who does she think she is with the printed Kaftan, Kyle Richards?

The reason Vanessa made this list is because the whole butterfly thing is so aesthetically pleasing that she pulls it off. Only a true Queen of Coachella could wear a hideous dress but make it work in an Instagram post.

4. Jeremy Scott

COACHELLA KISSES WID DA MISSES ?

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Jeremy Scott never fails to absolutely kill the Instagram game. This fabulous designer had the most star-studded Insta feed that I had no choice but to rank him among some serious divas. He kissed Katy Perry. He posed in a gorgina Moschino jacket with Lil Yachty, who naturally also donned a Moschino top. Coco Rocha, Kylie, Emrata, oh my!

5. Alessandra Ambrosio

Alessandra could've made this list just for being so unbelievably beautiful and stylish. She could've made the list for bringing her daughter to Coachella every year since she was pregnant. But she made this list because her young daughter literally performed at the festival. I mean... she is now not only mother of the year but also Coachella Queen of the year.

6. Shay Mitchell

OK so this picture is about as extra as it gets. The face, the pose, the floatie, the coordinating topless bathing suit... I want to hate it. I want to hate it so bad. But somehow it works and I kind of love it. So here's to Shay, the Instagram Queen of Extraness.

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My Dirty Little Secret to a Great Workout

Looking good, Billy Ray! Feeling good Louis!

Secret to a great workout? Feeling good. Best way to feel good? Looking good.

When I feel confident in what I'm wearing to the gym I have that extra little spark of motivation to really kick my own ass. (Sidenote: Might also be because I want to be at the gym a little longer so maybe the hottie on the squat rack next to me will see how great I look. Maybe.) And don't forget that it's likely you'll be looking yourself in a giant mirror for a good hour while you do your reps and no one wants to stare at their old high school homecoming shirt for an hour.

You can hate. You can think I'm shallow but whatever, it works for me. Do you. I like looking good.

Cute gym clothes also provide the added bonus of being multipurpose, whether it be to class, running errands post workout, or a quick shopping trip.

I pulled a few of my favorite pieces of worthy gym wear. So go ahead-do some shopping and restock that ratty old tee shirt drawer.

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Hunny of the Week : Sara Petty

Hunny /[huhn-ee] / noun: a badass bitch who's not just hot: she's funny, smart, strong, and\or ambitious.

Our Hunny this week is one kick-ass college student who went viral for slaying the body shamers on Twitter this week. Sara Petty, a 20-year-old at Bowling Green State University in Ohio, was sick of all the comments on social media dictating what people of different sizes could and couldn't wear.

Preach Hunny, so are we.

After Petty saw a tweet last week stating "200-pound girls shouldn't wear bikinis," she did some some online searching and found that this hate and negativity was disturbingly common on social media.

"I decided to do my part to chip away at body-shaming however I could," she said.

This bold female is proof that it doesn't take a celebrity to make headlines and get the body positive word out there. She Tweeted four pics of herself wearing the clothing that was deemed "unfit" for women her size, framed next to the hateful Tweets.

The pics were retweeted and liked a whopping 179,000 times.

The final kick comes from Petty's simple yet powerful caption: "Girls: wear whatever the hell you want."

Not only does she completely shut down body shamers, but she looks damn good doing it. Her message of body positivity and female empowerment is incredibly important, especially given the amount of female competition/judgement in our society.

Case in point: All of the tweets Sara used in her photos were written by other women.

As she told the Huffington Post, "I hope women realize how important it is to stop tearing each other down and uplift each other. We have a lot going against us as women, we don't need other women against us, too."

Couldn't have said it better myself. We need more Sara Pettys in the world reminding us that we're beautiful no matter our size.

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Former Sorority Sister Shares Her Story, Calls For A Change In Greek Life (Video)

#SororityRevamp

Alex Purdy, a senior at Syracuse University, joined a sorority looking for a "sense of belonging and friendship" but instead found herself in a toxic environment. She believed she would find "women who encourage(d) each other to be their best self" but found her sisters put a heavy emphasis on looks, weight, and outside approval rather than building a community from within and empowering each other.

The video has garnered almost 20,000 views in less than five days; and it's obvious that it's striking a nerve with viewers. Like any viral content, it's not without controversy, with about half as many dislikes as likes on YouTube and a mixed comments section. Most people seem encouraging, but a few point out that maybe this is not a widespread problem--It's just hers.

Purdy's video is starting a meaningful conversation on these institutions that have been established for hundreds of years and might need a push into the 21st century. What do you think? Is this a nationwide problem or an individualized incident? Are sorority systems encouraging women's self worth, individuality, and growth or do they work to reinforce sexist institutions from the time of their birth? Is it time for a change?

Alex is only one voice, but maybe her movement could begin to change the structure of sororities from the inside out.

"It's not about what we're born with on the outside, it's about what we do with what we've been given on the inside."

Wise words Alex. Thanks for sharing your story.

Join the conversation with #SororityRevamp.