Cleanses have always been vital to health in more ways than one. People can cleanse their kidneys, liver, or pull a Serena Van Der Woodsen, and cleanse their lives by summering in the Hamptons.
"Detox" is a term often used when it comes to cleanses, which basically means to get the toxins out of your body. What about when it comes to the toxins that drain us from break-ups and negative relationships? There definitely needs to be a cleanse for that. I'm sure we can think of a few ways to attain this goal...
Most bad moods really can be cured with "mind over matter" techniques. By simply taking a few moments when you wake up to meditate, it can really set the mood for a better day ahead.
The same goes for when you go to sleep at night. Take some time as you're drifting off to sleep to count the things you have to be thankful for in your life, and open up room for some pleasant dreams.
Meditation can be breathing exercises, repeated positive mantras, light stretching, or even just a few moments of silence and good thoughts. Start doing this every single day!
Exercise releases endorphins, so you're basically going to be all doped up on good vibes once you leave the gym. Half the battle is getting there, so do yourself a favor and just show up and see what you can get done.
3. Change Up Your Diet
It's true that you are what you eat. Processed foods and other crap can literally bring down your mood. Start lunching at Whole Foods and making your own healthy dishes straight from your Pinterest board.
Now that you don't have to keep up with that ex-loser, you have time to play around with recipes and try new places. If late-night pizza reminds you of him, the good news is you can swap that out for early-morning brunch with the girls.
4. Set New Goals
The two of you had been living in your routine so much that you forgot the pleasures that come along with the new and exciting. Don't look at your break-up as losing one thing, look at it as gaining everything. The world is yours to have.
You've always wanted to start golfing...do it! You've never had a spa weekend...go! There's nothing holding you back from leaving this town... plan on moving to a new city! Pull an Eat, Pray, Love and find yourself again.
One thing that I started doing after a break-up that made me feel better was keeping a journal. I would journal about new goals to set, travel experiences, and anything else that would pop into my mind!
5. Keep Busy
Throw yourself into your work, hobbies, and friends. Go after that promotion you deserve, get better at your acroyoga, and invite your friends over for dinners. There's so much you can be doing other than dwelling on the past.
Grocery shopping, days at the office, getting involved in philanthropy, reading books, watching new shows with your girls, spending time with your family, redecorating the house... You get the idea. Just keep busy until it's time to hit the sheets!
When it comes to break-ups, the first move doesn't have to be hiding in the dark with Netflix, spending every night at the bar, or jumping into a new relationship. Reflect on the time you had together one time, wipe your tears, and cleanse.
It only takes 21 days to form a habit, so make your next habits beneficial to YOUR progress. In the grand scheme of things, 21 days is NOTHING. In the grand scheme of life, neither is the guy that broke your heart.