#Sexfessions: Warpaint Style
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#Sexfessions: Warpaint Style

Gotta do what you gotta do to break that dry streak, you know?

Okay, let's all agree that dry streaks suck. You're just frustrated and want to smack your head off of the wall once or twice. If you've never had to experience a dry streak, you're a lucky, lucky person, because they make you kinda crazy. Or maybe that's just me.

Scenario: I was on a six month dry streak. It was one of the worst times of my life, particularly because it came right after a stretch of gettin' it regularly before that person moved.

I went to Tampa for a musical festival, and met up with somebody I'd been talking to for a little while beforehand. We hook up, or at least, start to.

Turns out, six months had a bit of an effect, and I started bleeding a little bit. Whoops.

Being the gentleman he is, the guy stopped, informed me and asked me if I was alright. I felt a moment of panic as I discovered that I was, in fact, bleeding. Was I doomed to be stuck in a dry streak forever?

No. I was not ready to go back to frustrated, crazy limbo. I looked him dead in the eye, determined. "I don't care if you don't care," I declared.

He shrugged, clearly nonchalant about the entire situation. "I don't care."

I wasn't doomed after all! Yes. In my glee, I went off the deep end of extra, beyond extra, the most extra I could've been about it.

You know eyeblack that football players wear? I applied some eye-red. Yup. Took the blood, and smeared it right on my face. He didn't totally hate it, either, saying, "Damn, alright, I see you."

Game on.

(It was dope.)

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The Balls On Zach Werenski Are Huge

And a ton of respect to the trainers, too.

God, I love playoff hockey. And the things players are willing to do for it, too, for that matter.

Probably the biggest example of the extremes players will go to was seen yesterday through Columbus Blue Jackets defenseman Zach Werenski.

Werenski made one of the more ultimate defensive sacrifices when he took a shot from Phil Kessel and the puck went off his face. As Pittsburgh scored their third goal of the game, Werenski rushed off the ice to the trainer's room.

Miraculously, Werenski found his way back onto the ice for the third period. The trainers had managed to stitch him up, and he seemed well enough to get back on the ice.

So, while we're at this subject, can we just take a minute to be thankful for all the trainers behind the scenes at the NHL? With all the s*** the players go through between taking pucks to the face, being the victim of high-sticking (especially when blood is involved), and every body hit and crash into the boards. And while you can give credit to the players' toughness and testicular fortitude, those trainers have a huge responsibility.

They must do an efficient job, because they would need to be speedy in order for a player to get back on the ice after a moment like this. Were it not for Columbus' training room staff, he may not have returned to the game.

So, shoutout to Head Athletic Trainer Mike Vogt and Assistant Athletic Trainers Nates Goto and Chris Strickland. You and all the other trainers in the NHL (and other sports, too), sometimes go under-appreciated too often.

Back to Werenski. Werenski didn't show up for the overtime period, however. Head Coach John Tortorella said Werenski didn't play in overtime, despite finishing with nearly 20 minutes of ice time totaled, because he couldn't see.

Well, if you look at the selfie he posted (and compared to when he returned in the third donning protective shielding for his face), can you really wonder that? He must have received, give or take, about 10 stitches. The tissue in the nostril in the selfie tells me there must have been quite the bit of nose bleeding that needed to be stopped as well.

And just look at the mark from the puck! You know all the official NHL stuff that's written on the puck? I think I can see that on the mark on his face! That's not just a black eye, that's a black mark slowly taking over the right side of Werenski's face. That is, near quite literally, a puck under his right eye.

Or I could just simply say there must have been a HELL OF A LOT of swelling under the eye between the third period and overtime. Looking at that selfie, I would assume he couldn't see either.

Hopefully this man is back for Game 4 of the series. His team may need it. After blowing the lead in Game 3, the Columbus Blue Jackets are now one game away from being eliminated in the first round by the defending Stanley Cup champion Pittsburgh Penguins.

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Face Oils Your Skin Needs ASAP

Yes, even oily skin. Trust.

If you've ever struggled with a greasy t-zone and/or acne, you probably cringe at the idea of adding oil to your already shiny mug. However, the more products you use to get a matte look, the more your skin works to overcompensate for a lack of moisture by producing more oil. It's time to suck it up, get some essentials oils, and do right by your skin--your biggest organ.

Coconut oil: If I could only use one oil, it would be this. Its moisturizing and antimicrobial properties make it perfect for moisturizing all skin types. You can use regular extra virgin coconut oil or mix it with other oils or lotions. I'm hooked on the vanilla-scented one from Whole Foods, which you can mix yourself if you're a nerd for DIY or have a sprig of lavender handy.

Tea tree oil: This dry oil is known for its acne-eradicating antibacterial properties and ability to regulate oil production. Be careful with this one--you absolutely have to dilute that ish or it will dry/irritate/burn your skin.

Jojoba oil: It mimics the skin's sebum, tricking it into produce less oil. Jojoba is great for treating acne, psoriasis, and chapped skin.

Argan oil: Rich in vitamin E and essential fatty acids, this oil heals, conditions, and has anti-aging properties.

Rosehip oil: This dry oil increases collagen production, heals scar tissue, and brightens skin.

Lavender oil: Not only is the scent of lavender good for de-stressing, it also helps regenerate skin cells and fade sun spots/scarring. Another great oil for all skin types and needs.

Tamanu oil: It has strong anti-inflammatory, antimicrobial, antibiotic, and antioxidant properties, which makes it great for treating breakouts. Tamanu oil helps the skin heal, regenerate, and reduces scarring.

It's important to get high-quality essential oils and to use them in the right way; it's always a good idea to read the label and do a bit of research when trying a new oil. Carrier oils (like coconut oil) dilute otherwise too-potent essential oils and allow you to spread them more evenly on your skin and avoid wasting the product. Fun fact: oil dissolves oil so you can even clean your face with it.

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What It's Really Like to Have an Eating Disorder

Hungry, felt to me, like strong.

Before I even was thinking about what college I wanted to go to, I had already developed a fear of the Freshman 15. But it wasn't just a fear of gaining weight in college. It was a fear of gaining weight at all.

As with any fear that goes unaddressed, it grew. Eating disorders don't develop overnight. Someone doesn't just wake up one morning and decide to stop eating or work out excessively. Factors such as peer pressure, outside influences, stress, and body image all play into developing an eating disorder.

When I look back on the time in my life that I struggled with anorexia, I don't remember much except for food. My whole mind revolved around the idea of burgers, pasta, or salads. Thinking of them constantly and feeling my body ache and groan for nutrition made me feel as though I was in control, like I was strong enough to resist. I could control what I ate, and that made me feel good. I felt strong.

Hungry, felt to me, like strong.

But I wasn't. In reality, I was weak and sick. Focusing on school or even my friendships was exhausting because my thoughts always came back to food. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw myself bigger than I actually was. I was mentally ill, and in the process of making myself physically ill, as well.

The National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) reveals some statistics that show just how much young women and their body images are being affected by media, "Of American elementary school girls who read magazines, 69 percent say that the pictures influence their concept of the ideal body shape. 47 percent say the pictures make them want to lose weight."

These numbers reflect what I felt. Not only did constantly seeing magazines or ads with drop-dead gorgeous women with perfect bodies make me feel insecure, but being around my peers did, too.

I instantly felt lesser than anyone who I considered to be "skinnier" than me. I was constantly attempting to make myself look like models who had been Photoshopped and edited--but I didn't know they were.

I really didn't know. And I thought it was attainable.

I was willing to starve myself to attain something that wasn't even real.

I also didn't know that anorexia doesn't just make you thin. It can cause slow heart rate and low blood pressure, hair and muscle loss, dry skin and hair, and other long-term side effects.

I didn't know a lot of things. I was so young. I still am. My quest to get control in a stressful time of life led me down a destructive path. But I am so thankful I got help. I was lucky. I had support from family and friends and found a way to deal with my diagnosis through therapy and hard work. I still work on it today. But I am healthy.

If I could go back and tell myself one thing it would be that the things you see are not always real. The flawless skin, white teeth, skinny bodies--they are Photoshopped, glossy, edited versions of people. They aren't real.

Don't harm your body and your spirit by trying to attain the unattainable.

If you feel like you might have a problem or the start of one, talk to your campus health center. You can get help anonymously. Take healthy control over your body and your life.

If you or a friend need help, please call the NEDA's toll free, confidential helpline: 1-800-931-2237.

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Every Blonde Needs These Hair Products

You'll be able to hold off on hair appointments just a little longer.

It's no secret that maintaining your blonde is tricky. Not only is finding the right colorist a struggle, but it seems like the color dulls minutes after leaving the salon. If you're struggling to keep your hair brass-free, you need to pick up these products before it's too late.

To maintain that trendy "white-grey" hue:
If you're not a natural blonde, or anywhere near that shade, then the struggle is real when it comes to maintaining that frosty light blonde. My natural hair color is a chestnut brown, so my hair becomes brassy and golden easily. In order to combat this rookie color faux pas, incorporate a purple toning shampoo into your routine two or three times weekly.

I swear by Joico's toning shampoo and conditioner, Color Balance Purple. If you're ballin' on a budget, pick this up from your nearest Ulta for only $15 a bottle.

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To prolong the time between appointments:
If your hair is darker naturally, or has red undertones, you'll need to add a toning mask to your weekly regime. I've found that a toning shampoo and conditioner isn't enough to lift my roots and brighten my highlights, however I've found the perfect product to postpone that dreaded root touch up appointment.

The Kenra Intense Brightening Treatment not only lifts roots that are just starting to come in, but it's also that extra kick your hair needs to go from drab to fab!


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To conceal ghastly roots:
There is nothing worse than visible roots, especially when the contrast between the highlights and dark roots looks like something out of a black and white movie.

If you're waiting for your next paycheck or just really don't feel like getting to the salon, try Color WOW's root cover up. This product is essentially an eye-shadow palette, but for your hair! It comes in seven different shades and doesn't move once you apply it!


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To restore the life back to your bleached tresses:
Everyone long-time blonde knows the damage coloring your hair does. If you're not careful all of that bleach and toner will leave you with hair breakage, split ends and a thinning head of hair. Avoid those nightmares by putting a weekly mask on your hair, or if you have the time, let it soak in overnight.

I'm a fan of L'Oreal Professional's S?rie Expert Absolut Repair Lipidium Mask. It's a little bit pricey, ringing in at about $33 dollars, but I noticed a difference in my hair after just one use!


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And last, but definitely not least:
Since I mentioned hair masks, it's only natural that I'd follow that section up with a daily, leave-in-conditioner. The it's A 10 Miracle Leave-in-Product spray is my go-to. In fact, I've re-bought this product at least five times. For the best results, spray this product into damp hair, and then blow dry, or let it air dry!


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Hopefully one of these products alleviates the upkeep of your color and keeps you from second-guessing your choice. Maintaining the perfect blonde is tricky, but your routine doesn't have to be as bad!

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Surviving A Dry Spell

How to get by when you're not getting it on.

When I was a kid, hearing dry spell meant it was hot out and, thus, probably summer, and so, I didn't have school... and since I didn't care much about the vitality of our lawn, it was all fine by me.

Now, though, when I hear dry spell, I wince. Much like the aforementioned dying grass of my childhood, a dry and dull (and for boys, probably hard) situation comes to mind.Unless you're Dan Bilzerian, a wave of abstinence is bound to reach you at one time or another.

Although I suppose you could also be saving yourself for marriage, in which case, your life is just a dry period, so this doesn't apply to you. But, hey, good for you guys (but, like, if you're Russell Wilsoning the fuck out of the situation, maybe simmer down).

With my friends, it almost always seemed like we took turns being without sex, passing what we deemed the imaginary "celibacy stick". If we're being honest, I've held it longer than I wanted a few times.

Clearly, if you've read anything I've written, you'll know I'm much like most humans and enjoy having sex. But, I've also mentioned my appreciation for a period of celibacy. It might not be ideal, but having a dry spell can be really good for you.

Regardless of your outlook on your (lack of) sex life though, there are simple ways to make an abstinent time livable. More than livable, I dare say, but fun and productive. If you're currently hanging on a dry spell, take notes. And even if you aren't, but are looking for ways to improve your mental health and sex life, also take notes. So, maybe just everyone whip it out.... whip out the notes I mean.

Masturbate.
This is the equivalent of saying throw water on a campfire to put it out. It's a no brainer. But just doing the same old thing all the time (every week, every day, a few times a day - hey, I ain't judging) will have you wanting to take a break with yourself.

Mix it up by doing it in the shower or tub if you normally always do it in bed. Or, if you usually do you at night, consider giving yourself a morning rub. Start watching porn (girls) or watching different kinds of stuff. Use toys. It might be a one (wo)man show, but it doesn't mean you can't get into it.

Focus on self-improvement.
Use the moment of celibacy to do you (in more than just sexual ways). Prioritize your mental health in this solo riding time. Allow this to be a period of self-reflection and work on recalibrating your actions and behavior to get closer to your idea of a happy and successful place.

A dry spell is also a good opportunity to set goals to improve your physical health; release your sexual tension through exercise, which, although sounds cheesy AF, really works. Get back to the workout grind, try a new physical fitness activity or maybe set a fitness goal (like conquering a half marathon).

Foster intimate relationships in different ways.
Whenever I find myself devoid of sex for a consistent streak, I set out to form new relationships and further cultivate established ones. Sometimes physical relationships mask vulnerable needs; a person looking for care, love or affection might believe their sexual interactions completely fill these human necessities. It might help a little, but everyone needs an emotionally tender touch too. A dry spell is a good reminder to seek this out in other relationships.

I do this by reconnecting with old friends, catching up with family, and maintaining flirtatious interactions through any and all mediums (Facebook, Skype, phone calls or texts, coffee dates, you name it). I also make an added effort to be friendly and actively try to make new friends.

Refocus on your sexual desires and needs.
Pressing pause on action in the sheets allows you to think about how you can feel fulfilled sexually, reflect on if you are pursuing these needs and desires, and wonder about the best way to satiate your sex drive. Maybe you realize you want to stop having sex with people you don't care about or, conversely, want to start having more casual sex. Or you might even want to start experimenting a little with a kinky desire you've been repressing. Mull it over.