When I was a kid, hearing dry spell meant it was hot out and, thus, probably summer, and so, I didn't have school... and since I didn't care much about the vitality of our lawn, it was all fine by me.
Now, though, when I hear dry spell, I wince. Much like the aforementioned dying grass of my childhood, a dry and dull (and for boys, probably hard) situation comes to mind.Unless you're Dan Bilzerian, a wave of abstinence is bound to reach you at one time or another.
Although I suppose you could also be saving yourself for marriage, in which case, your life is just a dry period, so this doesn't apply to you. But, hey, good for you guys (but, like, if you're Russell Wilsoning the fuck out of the situation, maybe simmer down).
With my friends, it almost always seemed like we took turns being without sex, passing what we deemed the imaginary "celibacy stick". If we're being honest, I've held it longer than I wanted a few times.
Clearly, if you've read anything I've written, you'll know I'm much like most humans and enjoy having sex. But, I've also mentioned my appreciation for a period of celibacy. It might not be ideal, but having a dry spell can be really good for you.
Regardless of your outlook on your (lack of) sex life though, there are simple ways to make an abstinent time livable. More than livable, I dare say, but fun and productive. If you're currently hanging on a dry spell, take notes. And even if you aren't, but are looking for ways to improve your mental health and sex life, also take notes. So, maybe just everyone whip it out.... whip out the notes I mean.
This is the equivalent of saying throw water on a campfire to put it out. It's a no brainer. But just doing the same old thing all the time (every week, every day, a few times a day - hey, I ain't judging) will have you wanting to take a break with yourself.
Mix it up by doing it in the shower or tub if you normally always do it in bed. Or, if you usually do you at night, consider giving yourself a morning rub. Start watching porn (girls) or watching different kinds of stuff. Use toys. It might be a one (wo)man show, but it doesn't mean you can't get into it.
Focus on self-improvement.
Use the moment of celibacy to do you (in more than just sexual ways). Prioritize your mental health in this solo riding time. Allow this to be a period of self-reflection and work on recalibrating your actions and behavior to get closer to your idea of a happy and successful place.
A dry spell is also a good opportunity to set goals to improve your physical health; release your sexual tension through exercise, which, although sounds cheesy AF, really works. Get back to the workout grind, try a new physical fitness activity or maybe set a fitness goal (like conquering a half marathon).
Foster intimate relationships in different ways.
Whenever I find myself devoid of sex for a consistent streak, I set out to form new relationships and further cultivate established ones. Sometimes physical relationships mask vulnerable needs; a person looking for care, love or affection might believe their sexual interactions completely fill these human necessities. It might help a little, but everyone needs an emotionally tender touch too. A dry spell is a good reminder to seek this out in other relationships.
I do this by reconnecting with old friends, catching up with family, and maintaining flirtatious interactions through any and all mediums (Facebook, Skype, phone calls or texts, coffee dates, you name it). I also make an added effort to be friendly and actively try to make new friends.
Refocus on your sexual desires and needs.
Pressing pause on action in the sheets allows you to think about how you can feel fulfilled sexually, reflect on if you are pursuing these needs and desires, and wonder about the best way to satiate your sex drive. Maybe you realize you want to stop having sex with people you don't care about or, conversely, want to start having more casual sex. Or you might even want to start experimenting a little with a kinky desire you've been repressing. Mull it over.